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Intuitive or Instrumental Grieving

I don’t doubt that you as the person reading this knows that people handle grief differently.

You’ve probably heard the quote,

“grief is as unique as a fingerprint.”

But when put into practice,

What the heck does that look like?

Some find it helpful to grieve softly,

& most of the time- quietly.

While others grieve loudly. Vibrantly.

And both are okay.

Both are right by their own merit.

I encountered a child loss dad recently,

….Doing remarkably well.

But he was told by someone-

That he wasn’t grieving properly.

This isn’t necessarily true though.

Let me explain why…

Some men tend to be instrumental grievers.

Grievers that tangibly move their grief.

In a physical way.

(Ex: working on a car in the garage.)

Some women tend to be intuitive grievers.

Grievers that express emotion as easy as breathing.

And the release of those emotions helps make the mind clear again.

(Ex: listening to a song and crying.) ..

And some grievers,

like myself, are both.

No matter what your grieving style is-

And whether you’re new here or not…

I’m here to tell you that it’s okay!

You’re doing the best that you can-

Carrying extremely heavy,

Painfully excruciating things.

And no matter how you do it-

It’s always important to grieve with intention.

And as long as that intention is to heal,

You’re on the right track.

You can do this.

Even if you don’t really want to.

Don’t let anyone tell you differently.

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